Couples Therapy in Oslo, Norway in English

I work with couples on communication breakdowns, recurring arguments that never seem to resolve, trust and betrayal, navigating life transitions together, parenting disagreements, intimacy and connection issues, and deciding whether to stay together or separate. I also work with expat couples facing the specific pressures of living abroad, cultural differences, isolation, and the strain of being far from family support. Many couples come when one partner is struggling with burnout, anxiety, or substance use and it's affecting the relationship. Some come when things feel stuck or distant, others when everything feels on fire. Both are valid times to seek help.

Ideally, both partners attend. Couples therapy works best when both people are in the room and willing to engage. That said, if one partner is reluctant or not ready, I can still work with the partner who is willing. Sometimes individual therapy for one person creates enough shift in the dynamic that the other partner becomes more open to joining later. I also offer a free 20-minute consultation where a hesitant partner can ask questions, get a sense of me, and decide if they're willing to try. Often, reluctance isn't about therapy itself but about fear of being blamed or not understood. I make it clear from the start that I'm not here to take sides.

In individual therapy, we work on your experience of the relationship, your patterns, your feelings. In couples therapy, we work on the relationship itself, the space between you. I see both partners, hear both perspectives, and help you understand the cycle you're caught in. Individual therapy is useful if you need to process your own history or trauma, or if you're deciding whether to stay or leave. Couples therapy is useful when the issue is relational, when communication has broken down, or when you both want to work on it together but don't know how. Sometimes people start with individual therapy and move to couples therapy later, or do both at the same time with different therapists.

It depends on what you're working on and how entrenched the patterns are. Some couples see shifts within six to eight sessions. Others work with me for several months or longer, especially if there's been betrayal, ongoing issues with trust, or if you're navigating something like parenting conflicts or a major life transition. I don't believe in keeping couples in therapy longer than necessary. We review progress regularly and adjust frequency as things improve. Some couples come weekly at first, then move to fortnightly, then check in once a month. Others come intensively for a period and then return if something comes up later. The pace is collaborative.

Yes, couples therapy requires both partners to be present. The work happens in the dynamic between you, and that only exists when you're both in the room. If one partner can't make a session, we reschedule. Occasionally, I might offer individual sessions as part of the couples work, but that's something we'd discuss together first, and it's not a replacement for joint sessions. If one partner consistently can't or won't attend, we'd need to reassess whether couples therapy is the right format at that time.

Couples therapy sessions are 60 minutes. I provide pricing details during the free 20-minute consultation. I know therapy is an investment, and I want you to go into it with clarity about cost and what you're paying for. I don't accept insurance, so payment is out-of-pocket. I do accept international payments via bank transfer or card. If cost is a concern, we can discuss session frequency or whether short-term focused work makes sense for your situation.

Yes. Many of the couples I work with are based outside Oslo or prefer the flexibility of online sessions. Zoom couples therapy works well when both partners are committed, have a quiet space, and a stable internet connection. Some couples prefer in-person for the sense of presence and containment, others find Zoom easier logistically, especially if they have young children or demanding work schedules. I offer both, and some couples do a mix depending on the week. The therapeutic process is the same.

Start with the free 20-minute consultation. You can book it through the form on this page, or call me directly at +47 906 02 994. In that conversation, we'll talk about what's happening, what you're hoping for, and whether I'm the right fit. If we decide to move forward, we'll schedule your first full session. First sessions are about understanding the history, the current issue, and what each of you needs. I don't expect you to have it all figured out. I just need to hear what's going on.